Friday, April 15, 2016

April Book Club 2016

Janie hosted the April Book Club on "Easy Street". Pam was in NYC, Carla A and Denise were sick, Terry was in Duncan and I was emotionally under the weather. I am putting the blog together from information on our Facebook group and guest blog contribution from Elisabeth. 

The book, The Story Hour, inspired an East Indian themed meal.  Janie provided Chicken Biryani, Carla G brought curried celery & wine, Darby brought Naan, Raita, and mint chutney, Lis brought curry and Chai Tea, Lou brought hummus, veggies, olives, and cheese, Diana brought spiced rice pudding & chocolate chip cookies, Tammy brought fruit and Arnora brought wine and flowers.

The Story Hour by Thrity Umrigar, is a compelling story of two women. Maggie, an experienced psychologist, carefully maintains her emotional distance from her patience. But, when she meets a young Indian women, Lakshmi, who has tried to kill herself the lines begin to blur. Lakshmi is a fish out  of water in her environment. She works in her husbands restaurant and grocery store. She speaks little English. Her one friend seems to be a young surfer type guy who eats in the restaurant each week. Lakshmi is in an unhappy relationship with her husband and is despondent when her young friend moves away.

Maggie is assigned to Lakshmi when she is brought into the hospital with an overdose. Maggie has compassion for her and agrees to treat her for free and, in her home office. Lakshmi is unfamiliar with the world of therapy. She is confused about the process and the time as a "story telling hour" and Maggie as a new friend she is making.  As the story unfolds in alternating first-person voices, we find that both Maggie and Lakshmi have secrets they are hiding. Eventually, the secrets collide and lives are changed.

I enjoyed how the author, at first, has us thinking certain things about the men in Maggie and Lakshmi's lives. I wasn't very sympathetic to Lakshmi's husband at first. But, then you find out that Lakshmi isn't as innocent as she appears and her husband has reason for his behavior. The same is true for most of the characters in the book. None of them are all good or all bad.  And their pasts are what have made them who they are and what brings them to this crossroads.  I felt both Maggie and Lakshmi dynamic rather than static characters. The pain they both experience moves them into new stages of their life. The book rated 3.7.

Elisabeth's summary:
The book generated a very lively discussion that started even around the dinner table, with the wonderful Indian food that Janie, our hostess, organized. We never even made it to the living room for the book review. The author managed to present the story in a way that allowed the reader to focus on different aspects of it, some seeing it as a shallow repeat of stories already told, others taking longer to appreciate the writing and structure. I believe that nobody was offended that the story hour didn’t wrap up every loose end nice and tidy but left it to the reader to decide how it might go on. It seemed an artistic touch to start and end the story with the same words signifying the story telling intent of it. In all, I believe that it was pretty well received.
Characters: Lakshmi (Indian immigrant in her 30s); Maggie (African-American psychologist in her 50s); Sudhir (engineering professor at university, from India, Maggie’s husband); Peter (humanities professor for 1 year, Maggie’s boyfriend); Mithai (elephant in India); Shilpa (Lakshmi’s younger sister); Rekha (younger Indian girl, helper in store); husband/Adit (older Indian store/restaurant owner, Lakshmi’s husband); Gloria (Maggie’s friend in San Diego).
I can see Lakshmi, a slight Indian woman that looks more like a girl with her small, shy presence and long, shiny black hair. I can see her shyly bobbing her head from side to side in the Indian way of approval or acknowledgement, where we would nod or shrug our shoulders.
I can picture Sudhir with confidence and assurance stand tall but quietly take his self-assigned position in society.
I can see Mithai through the stories about elephants that we read before, a loving creature that is not opposed to playing a little prank on his keepers.
I see pretty Shilpa as a young, immature girl with stars in her eyes, defiant and self-protective in a way that people are that have been allowed to get their way but don’t know it.
I don’t know why I have a difficult time picturing Maggie, if she is tall or short, pretty or average, with kinky or straightened hair; I was surprised to read that she is 56 years old. I might assume that her given name is actually “Maggie” or “Margarete”, but it could be something like “Mageesha” or “Mahogany”.
Peter was described pretty well, but I add to it that he might not have been overly handsome. Instead, he might have had plenty of charisma and presence, possibly a little over-bearing and self-absorbed.
The big secret that Lakshmi and Maggie share is that they have made mistakes that changed their lives. Lakshmi recognizes her actions and consequences and doesn’t feel the right to forgive herself. Maggie doesn’t understand the consequences of her mistake until it is too late but then still doesn’t seem t take full responsibility. When confronted by Sudhir, she doesn’t apologize and debase herself, like Lakshmi. In the beginning of the story, it appears that Lakshmi is the lost one that needs somebody else to help her move forward. As the story goes on, the need shifts to Maggie and Lakshmi becomes the strong one, the one with resolve. In therapy, Maggie didn’t realize that she unleashed the strong woman that Lakshmi was before her guilt about betraying Adit tied her down to become the shy, helpless immigrant.
Sudhir, like Adit, is driven by his hurt and pride for being wronged so badly. Sudhir cannot get past the hurt and sacrifices his happiness and his future to his pride. Adit was willing to sacrifice his future for being cheated until Lakshmi had the courage to tell him that he has a choice to accept and even appreciate what fate put in his way. 
While Maggie as psychologist was the one supposed to give healing, I felt that she was the weak one, the one with unresolved issues. Lakshmi knew the mistakes that she had made, understood why she was in this place of her life. Maggie could not see herself until she was forced to after she was discovered and had to deal with the consequences of her cheating. As a therapist, she crossed so many unprofessional lines and made so many professional mistakes that I would have considered her a bad therapist in the real world. Some of us felt that the author did not do Maggie’s character justice by spending too little time on the molestation issues and the struggles that Maggie must have carried away from it. An experience like that changed her and made her deal with life in ways that others might not understand. She couldn’t even tell Sudhir about it for many years. 
From the side of the author, I felt that the story took the turns that it should have. Maggie’s hurts from childhood needed to be dealt with and come into the open. She did not want to take the time to look at herself, naked like Lakshmi saw her in Peter’s arms, until she had to after Sudhir dismissed her. Even then she was more concerned for justifying herself than to take open responsibility for her in-appropriation. Peter’s hold on her was her responsibility; she could have ended the affair finally without going back again and again. Like Adit, she had choices about her relationship with her spouse – treasure what you have instead of longing for what is not. It is the age-old human tragedy of “the grass is greener on the other side.”

Monday, March 7, 2016

March Book Club 2016


!!!!LATE BREAKING NEWS!!!!
I'm going to start this months blog with all the big news.  Darby greeted us with the announcement that she's accepted a fabulous offer as an Associate Dean at a school in Chicago. The start date has not been confirmed but will most likely be June 1 or July 1. We are all sad to see Darby move away but, we are thrilled about her opportunity and look forward to visiting her in Chicago. She also mentioned that she'd like to SKYPE into book club when she can. Terry has been considering retiring from Blanchard High School and a move to be with her dad in Duncan. She'll still be in Oklahoma and, I'm sure will continue to attend book club as often as she can. Lou  has already made her move to Florida. She's keeping up with the books and will attend when she is visiting Oklahoma. She has kindly extended an invitation for us to have book club at her place in Florida.  However, it is unlikely that we'll be able to make that happen on the dates she has available. Another option, is to have a "retreat" at another time for those who can make the trip.  In other news, Tammy has moved back to the area and we are thrilled to welcome her back!

I have to say that since the book clubs inception, we've maintained a very consistent membership. This seems like the biggest shift since I became a member. Life happens to us all and, we would never want to hold anyone back (well, we couldn't anyway) but, we'll sure miss the consistent presence of these wonderful ladies.

IN MEMORIAM
 
It is with great sadness that I report on the passing of one of my favorite authors, Pat Conroy.  I saw that news while we were at book club on Friday night.  He had been diagnosed about a month ago with pancreatic cancer. I was shocked to hear this news so quickly after that announcement. "The Prince of Tides" will always be one of my favorite books. I know, that for some, he was a little flowery with his language and, perhaps, too emotional. But his words comforted, inspired and moved me.  I will miss knowing that he is not out there somewhere "growing up slowly beside the tides and marshes of a Carolina sea in a small white house won by his great-great grandfather in a horseshoe game." Rest in Peace dear Prince.  Another of my favorite authors also passed recently - Harper Lee. I think that we can all agree on the impact of "To Kill a Mockingbird".  We've just lost too many great writers, poets, musicians and actors this year. 
 
And now, to "continue our book report!" Laura hosted this month's book club. Missing were Carla G, Barb, Lis, Lou, Janie and Denise.  Our book this month was "The Little Paris Bookshop" and so we had a, lighter than air, goat cheese soufflĂ© prepared by Laura and her "Sou Chef", Carla A. Laura also made a very aromatic and flavorful Ratatouille. Pam brought a great salad with everything "but the kitchen" as they say. Darby provided Parmesan baquettes and wine. Terry surprised us with bacon wrapped prunes - which sound gross (if you don't like prunes) but, they were fantastic. Diana brought chocolate biscuits and croissants and champagne. Tammy made homemade lemon Ricotta cookies and Arnora brought the beautiful bouquet of flowers. Carla A said it was her favorite meal by far! However, I think we say that at every meal! haha
 
When we finally settled down to discussing the book, we actually ended up talking for about 2 hours. The book was generally well liked by those that had finished. There isn't a final rating yet; so far 2.5 to 4.0.
 
Our protagonist, Jean Perdu, has created a bookshop on a floating barge in Paris. He calls himself a "literary apothecary" and prescribes books to his customers based on what he views their emotional needs are. I felt the theme of this book could have been "physician - heal thyself." As always, it is easier to guide others to awareness and healing than it is to guide yourself. Jean is nursing a 20 year old love affair that ended badly. That mystery slowly unfolds and his closest friends also have events from 20 years ago they are dealing with.

Carla A had a problem with the language and several also noted that it often felt like you were in a different time period and it was jolting when he mentioned modern day conveniences like the cell phone. Laura felt that Jean was a dynamic character and that he was very different at the end of the book than he was at the beginning. There were a lot of layers of revealing and deceit. Jean Perdu lived in a world of self-denial about the events of Manon leaving. We all agreed that there is no real protocol for grieving. Everyone moves through it in their on time and in their own way. And, you can be supportive of someone's "hurting time" but you can't intervene. 

April's meeting will be at Janie's and our book is The Story Hour.


Wednesday, February 24, 2016

February Book Club 2016

First, let me give you my apologies for being so behind on the blog! Sometimes it is because I am busy managing the Bed and Breakfast. Sometimes, it is because I am having a hard time sitting down at the computer long enough to do it! But, I have a goal today to get caught up starting with the most recent book club and working my way back. Diana mentioned on her Facebook post that after spending most of the day on the computer, it is hard to go there in her spare time. I totally empathize.

February's book club was held at Arnora's. We missed Lou, Darby and Pam. Tammy joined us and is back on dry land for a time. We look forward to having her join us as often as possible. Arnora made sausage rolls and roasted vegetables. Denise and Lis brought salads, Tammy brought deviled eggs, Janie brought homemade bread and butter and for dessert we had Girl Scout Cookies from Barb, Carla G's homemade Nutella cupcakes and Carla A's pears with goat cheese and pomegranate.

It was also Valentine's Day and we exchanged a few Valentine's and chocolates.

Our book this month was A Man Called Ove by Fredrik Backman. I did not care for this book at all. And I was the only one who didn't like it.  Everyone else loved it. I had hoped to like it and after listening to the first three chapters with Diana I told her that Ove reminded me of Niles and Frazier Crane. But, in the end, I just didn't find him funny and I didn't connect to the characters. Denise said, "Sherrie, I know you don't like Alexander McCall Smith and this book reminded me of his books." Well, that hit the nail on the head for me. She's right! I find him mundane and boring and this book hit me the same way. So, that said, I asked Diana to give her review as she loved it so much. Her assessment is more in line with the consensus of the group.

"I loved the story and connected with the characters. I'm glad the story was well liked by the majority and it rated 4.3.  I loved it for the characters, the writing, philosophy, and revelations about myself that I experienced while I listened. I enjoyed the narrator, listening to the story twice. I loved Ove's humor and honesty. Life gave him some hard knocks and he may have become bitter over time, but his essence was always good and his wife Sonia could see his goodness (Parvanii and the cat, too). I loved the quirky real neighbors, Parvanii in particular, and of course, the mangled Cat, which I believe was Sonia reincarnated.

Lis commented, "Maybe, most of us saw a little of ourselves in at least one of the characters - maybe that's what was so appealing about the story. I still think about Ove and Parvanii a lot, I'd like to have Parvanii as a friend."
While Denise was reminded of Alexander McCall Smith, Carla A was reminded of the movie "Grand Torino".

Laura has volunteered to host in March and our book is The Little Paris Bookshop.

Monday, January 11, 2016

January Book Club 2016

January Book Club was hosted by Diana and we had our annual pajama party. Here I am including remarks made by Diana on our Facebook page.


"Thanks everyone for a lovely evening and all the delicious food! For me, hosting January bookclub is a wonderful way to mark the weekend and to start the new year. Love PJ's and breakfast for dinner. Plus, thanks to leftovers, Rex and I had a perfect breakfast this morning!

We missed half our members, although we carried on in true book club spirit, dined well, and laughed a lot! Arnora, Janie, and Lis recounted several of the Arabian night stories complete with hilarious hand gestures. While none of us have finished the 1001 tales, we are enjoying them and we plan to continue reading and discuss as we go, reserving our ratings until the end.

If you missed book club, this is only a bit of "what's new" which, for Arnora is great excitement, Sarah is expecting a baby in August! The whole family is thrilled and I'm sure Arnora will have more to share when she hosts our February 5th meeting. Janie shared photos of Santa Jim, best Santa ever! Lis has Natalie and grandchildren staying with she and Mickey while Natalie and Mark work toward a new goal of moving to Hawaii....story to be continued. Terry's hand/wrist is on the mend but still healing. Ember at 16 months is much calmer and throroughly enjoyed the full house and all the attention."

Perhaps it was coming off the heels of the holidays but no one finished our book, The Arabian Nights by Husain Haddoway. I was never able to put my hands on a copy by this author so, I never even started it. This is a pretty ancient text from the Islamic Golden Age, that has gone through many translations and we had settled on this one. As Diana stated, we still managed to have an animated discussion in spite of low reader participation.

The gist of the story is that the sultan, Shahrayar's, first wife is unfaithful to him and he kills her. He then vows to marry a different woman everyday - killing her the following morning to avoid another betrayal.  He then marries Scheherazade. She is smarter than he is and devises a plan to tell him a "bedtime" story every night. The trick is, she gets to the cliffhanger and stops the story so that he is forced to wait until the next night for the resolution. This goes on for 1001 nights until he has a change of heart. This is where we get such stories as Aladdin's Lamp, Ali Baba and the 40 Thieves and, Sinbad the Sailor.

On a comical note: After book club I was visiting with a couple at the B and B when the girl looked down at the end table between us at some old books. The first one she picked up was "the Arabian Nights", haha.  It was right under my nose the whole time. It wasn't by our chosen author, but it will definitely suffice and I am sure to one day read the stories.




Monday, December 7, 2015

December Book Club 2015


Christmas sleepover at Laura's contemporary barn home! We always love going out to Laura's for a leisurely book club, talks by the fire pit, staying up late watching movies and getting up slowly with our coffee to bird watch out the big picture windows. What a treat! Of course, there was the always fabulous meal you will see pictured here and our annual Christmas photo. Unfortunately, it wasn't 100% participation but I think the photos turned out pretty good!

For Christmas, we selected two very short Christmas stories; Dylan Thomas' A Child's Christmas in Wales and Christmas Day in the Morning by Pearl S. Buck.  The stories were what we had hoped for. Christmas is a busy time and we don't have time for long, complex novels. These stories had the right amount of nostalgia and Christmas spirit. These books were the perfect duo for the start of the holiday season. They were well liked and we didn't feel the need to rate them.  They gave us plenty of time for food, gift exchange and other girlie sleepover actives (minus the pillow fights!)








Monday, November 9, 2015

November Book Club 2015


Lis was unable to host or join us this month so Book Club moved to the Holmberg House for November. We had our somewhat traditional Thanksgiving meal and I provided the turkey. My long time friend, Mary Marxer, had dropped by to visit me earlier in the day and I persuaded her to stay through dinner.  As the weather was getting cooler, most everyone arrived in their winter boots! However, there were a few rogue members who had not switched to winter shoes. And even though it was cooling off we managed to have part of our discussion on the big front porch!

Our book was Euphoria by Lily King. Since, I was unable to write the blog immediately following book club - I've copied a plot summary here from Goodreads.

"From New England Book Award winner, Lily King, comes a breathtaking novel about three young anthropologists of the 30's caught in a passionate love triangle that threatens their bonds, their careers, and ultimately, their lives. English anthropologist, Andrew Bankson, has been alone in the filed for several years studying the Kiona river tribe in the Territory of New Guinea. Haunted by the memory of his brothers death and increasingly frustrated and isolated by his research, Bankson is no the verge of suicide when a chance encounter with colleagues, the controversial Nell Stone and her wry and mercurial Australian husband, Fen, pulls him back from the brink. Nell and Fen have just fled the bloodthirsty Mumbanyo and, in spite of Nell's poor health, are hungry for a new discovery. When Bankson finds them a new tribe nearby, the artistic, female-dominated Tam, he ignites an intellectual and romantic firestorm between the three of them that burns out of anyone's control."

The story is very loosely based on anthropologist Margaret Mead.  Most everyone rated the book between 3.5 and 4 and the final rating was 3.3. Diana and Terry did not finish the book, not their cup of tea.




Monday, October 12, 2015

October Book Club 2015

A beautiful full moon night at Arnora's to discuss The Boy Who Drew Monsters. The book was well liked and we stayed late in the evening. The book rated 3.38.

Here is the plot summary from Goodreads, "From the New York Times bestselling author of The Stolen Child comes an hypnotic literary horror novel about a young boy trapped inside his own world. whose drawings blur the lines between fantasy and reality. Ever since ten-year old Jack Peter Keenan nearly drowned in the ocean three years earlier, he has been deathly afraid to venture outside. Refusing to leave his home in a small coastal town in Maine, Jack Peter spends his time drawing monsters. When those drawings take on a life of their own, no one is safe from the terror they inspire. His mother, Holly, begins to hear strange sounds in the night coming from the ocean and she seeks answers from the local Catholic priest and his Japanese housekeeper who fill her head with stories of shipwrecks and ghosts. His father, Tim, wanders the beach, frantically searching for a strange apparition running wild in the dunes. And the boy's only friend, Nick, becomes helplessly entangled in the eerie power of the drawings. While those around Jack Peter are haunted by what they think they see, only he knows the truth behind the frightful occurrences as the outside world encroaches upon them all. In the tradition of The Turn of the Screw, Keith Donohue's, The Boy Who Drew Monsters, is a mesmerizing tale of psychological terror and imagination run wild. A perfectly creepy read for a dark night.

On October 3, we met at Laura's house for our Elephant Fund Raiser Wrap Party. We had 7 artists who donated 14 paintings and we raised $2,450 on our Facebook Art Auction page for the Endangered Ark Foundation.  Kristin Parra, grandaughter of the founder of the Ark, joined us and invited us as her guests to the Carson and Barnes circus the next day. Diana, Carla A, Terry, Lis, Laura, Arnora and family and I were able to attend. It was a small but very entertaining circus AND, we got to ride the elephants at intermission.  As you know, this whole thing started when I had the dream of riding the circus elephant. And so, my dream has come full circle and we were introduce to an amazing story, amazing elephants and helped them improve their watering system at the Ark.